Secondary losses are the additional losses that come with losing a loved one. This could be a physical object, a tradition that involved the deceased, or something else. Often, these secondary losses appear over time rather than all at once. Those grieving see them unfold as they realise the impact the death has on their day-to-day life.
Possible secondary losses
- Secondary losses due to a significant carer or parent dying e.g., financial changes, changed relationships, loss of shared memories, decreased sense of security and safety
- Rites of passage losses such as having their loved one with them when starting school for a young child, at the celebration of special birthdays, sporting events, matric dances, graduation etc.
- A parent who is less available. A surviving parent may have to work longer hours or be struggling with their own grief so become emotionally unavailable to the grieving child.